- Andy Pilides
Understanding People
Updated: May 12, 2020
As a coach, I believe that you should study people as much as you study the area you're coaching. After all, to be effective we need to work with others and to get results we have to understand people.
Keep this in mind: When everyone is happy they pull in the same direction. End of the day everyone benefits, you should want the best out of the people you coach and you should want to help and support them as best you can. This is why you need to understand the people you are working with! Below are 16 statements to consider:
There is nobody on the planet whose personal experiences and makeup don't shape their behaviours
Just because you personally don't like something doesn't mean it is necessarily wrong
Make your words concise, clear and to the point when coaching. Don't beat around the bush you'll confuse people!
They have to live it for themselves, you can't do it for them!
If you look like you are expecting a fight you'll end up getting one - Body language!
Its common to think you made a mistake, then realize you were actually spot on!
Your own happiness comes first - How can you contribute if not?
Thank yous are the best way to pray. Giving more than a thank you is even better - appreciate!
If you ignore the context its hard to understand why people do what they do
You can't expect them to magic themselves into a different person just because it doesn't suit you!
Telling people what to do can backfire
Maybe deep down they are feeling small and anxious
People with nothing to prove don't try to impress
Every relationship is unique
Don't assume the emotion you see is the actual one
Sometimes the only solution is to change the whole. This is because a square peg will always be a square peg!
TASK
Learn about the people you coach
Take interest
Find who you are willing to help
Go and coach
"You Learn Something New Everyday If You Pay Attention!" - Ray Leblond
Stay Strong Andy Pilides
